"So here we are, the feminist and postfeminist and postpill generation. We somehow survived our own teen and college years (except for those who didn't), and now, with the exception of some Mormons, evangelicals and Orthodox Jews, scads of us don't know how to teach our own sons and daughters not to give away their bodies so readily. We're embarrassed, and we don't want to be, God forbid, hypocrites."
So you see what's going on here? The mom in this article is demonstrating a classic Baby Boomer trait in which she is more concerned about herself and how she'll appear to her daughter than being concerned with doing what's right for her daughter. Over and over in that article she mentions regret over how she lived her own youth and that she wishes she hadn't given "it" away.
Wait, give what away?
Did you catch that?
Did you notice she alludes to "the word" without actually saying it?
Know what word that is? Wanna take a guess?
Well, it starts with "v".
Another hint: It's considered a four-letter word nowadays even though it has 9 letters in it.
If you said "virginity", then good for you! Basically, this article is an argument for waiting until marriage before having sex, but it tries desperately to avoid saying that directly.
So as to not sound like a prude, of course.
But if her own life experience has told her that she would have been better off waiting until marriage, and if her own friends' experiences also say the same thing, then why not come out and say it? And why not try to encourage their daughters to not make the same mistake?
Oh, that's right. They don't want to sound like prudes. Avoiding even the appearance of prudery trumps logic and common sense.
Look, I could say here again the arguments and reasoning as to why waiting until marriage makes the best sense for young women, especially in how they relate (and procreate!) with young men, but no doubt you'll tune me out the very second that you read my words, no matter how much sense I make in creating my argument. So instead, read that article again, and then again, until you see that the author is making the argument that waiting until marriage to have sex makes the most sense for young women. If you ask her, she'll deny it, but if you read in between the lines, you'll see that that's exactly what she's saying.
And maybe one day, she'll even admit it to herself.
But probably not before her daughter has an unplanned pregnancy. \:-(
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