Okay, I just got a note from someone who took offense over my comment about Sandra Fluke; specifically when I said,
"it's still part of the maturation process (especially by age 30!),
learning how to say "no" once in a while, instead of diving into your
carnal lusts like wild howler monkeys in heat."
Folks, I opine here, and on FB. And I make no secret about being conservative while doing it. It's what I do. I won't apologize to this person for being offended about my comment above, because this person should know plainly and clearly that I am a conservative. Not only do mature people learn to control their sexual appetites by age 30, then also learn how to agree to disagree about the issues of the day.
As an opinion writer, I expect to get disagreement over my views. If I didn't, then I wouldn't be a good opinion writer! Not only do I expect it, I enjoy disagreements, because I view it as an opportunity to learn and grow as a writer. Am I perfect? Hell no! I'll learn from whatever mistakes I made, and then I move on. But it won't stop me from taking other chances in the future, because if I become fearful of offending someone, then I lose my effectiveness and my "edge" as a writer. And I wouldn't keep doing this if I didn't love it.
So I won't say "I apologize if you're offended." Instead, I'll say "I'm disappointed that you're offended." Instead of taking me to task about how offended you are, why not just take me to task over the issue itself? And I am truly disappointed in this person. Because this person is a progressive, I expected tolerance and open-mindedness with views that are different from their own views.
By the way, I stand by what I said. Fluke went to Georgetown in order to ask for birth control from a Catholic university in order to put them in the position to either violate their views on artificial birth control, or to deny her so that she can cry "Foul!". She intentionally put Georgetown in a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" position; this despite the fact that she could have gotten her birth control from the local Planned Parenthood, DC's women's health office, or at a public university where they're offered without conflicts.
So Fluke could have gotten her birth control from other sources, or she could have said "Not tonight, honey". more often. In fact, developing a more mature attitude towards your sexuality means learning how to say no once in awhile. Don't we have way more than enough of alleged adults in our society with their sexual attitudes stuck in adolescence? And wouldn't a more mature attitude towards sexuality help prevent the spread of STDs and of unintended pregnancies (and thus, cut down on the number of abortions)? Isn't that what we all want?
All of the above is what could have come out of this conversation had this person chosen to debate me on this issue rather than take offense over what I said. "Taking offense" is a coward's tactic to avoid discussing an issue, and it has no place in the arena of free and open debate and discussion.
I'll keep believing and practicing the art of debate and discussion even if I'm the last person doing so.